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Supporting Your Health And Fitness Goals
By admin | August 5, 2008
Here’s a question I received awhile back from one of my newsletter subscribers.
At first glance, you may be wondering what this has to do with you and your situation. Actually, quite a lot so read on.
“Hi Gregg! I’m really enjoying getting your tips by email.
Thank you so much for imparting your wisdom and experience as you do. You’re a goodie.
My comment/question is this: I’m a woman who wants to train big. I’m not a woman who wants to “tone”.
I want big muscles, and I have the frame for it.
I’m blessed with a system that supports this, and I seem to easily pack on muscle even better
than some of my skinny male gym buddies (and I’m sure your tips help!).
But now that I’m really starting to show my progress, lots of people are telling me I should stop training so hard.
They say I won’t look “feminine” (whatever that is!). How do I tell them in a way they’ll understand that this is my dream, and this how I *want* my body to look.
I don’t want to be a stick, I want to be like my hero, Bev Francis.
So that’s my question..how do I effectively get these folks off my back? Xena”
Unfortunately, in today’s world, way too many people have the exact attitude that Xena is talking about.
I don’t mean about her desire to get big as a woman, but about success in general.
Most people nowadays are nothing more than complainers. They complain about how they look, how they feel, their job, their boss, their income and on and on and on.
It’s tough to swim against that tide because they also do their darndest to keep you wallowing in the misery of unreached potential right along with them.
Sure, they say they are your friends but they do everything they can to undermine what you are trying to accomplish whenever make a decision to try and change your life for the better - whether it’s going back to school, or wanting to lose weight, or get big muscles because it’s not “feminine”.
They couch their criticisms in ‘concern’ for you but really, they are just terrified that you will grow as a person, become successful and leave them behind.
They’d rather keep you down then follow you up. And that’s really no friend at all, is it?
This next part may sound a bit harsh, but sometimes the truth is harsh. You see, no one can do everything alone.
A big part of success for a lot of people is having some sort of support group in place. Seek out those that will give you positive reinforcement and tell them your goals.
In fact, read this fitness blog!
Find people with similar fitness or fat loss goals and use each other to stay on track.
Being held accountable by another person may make it much more likely to stay on track. This may mean changing your group of friends.
Like I said, harsh. But if they can’t support your health and fitness lifestyle and help you grow and live the life you really want to live, are they really your friend?.
Of course, I’m not saying to up and dump all your negative friends with no warning. But you do need to sit them down and have a heart to heart.
Let them know that what you are doing is very important to you and you want their support.
If the can’t be supportive, they should at least respect you enough to stop the negative comments and criticisms.
If they can’t do that, well, see a couple of paragraphs above.
You deserve the positive things in life that you want, whether it’s to add 50 pounds of hard, ripped, muscle so you can step on stage as a bodybuilding pro, or just to lose a few pounds of fat and tighten and tone your body so you can play with your kids.
Whatever it is, go after it and don’t let other people’s negativity stand in your way.
If they don’t want to change with you, that’s their problem.
They need to either step aside or be moved aside.
Let me sum that up: Block out negative opinions!
If someone doesn’t believe in you and support what you want to do, they are gone.
This goes right back to people resisting change.
You’ll find it among your friends, family, and co-workers. “Oh, you can’t do that.”
“Here have this. Oh, come on, it’s just one piece of cake. It’s Joe’s birthday.”
Those people, despite what they say about their intentions, do not respect you and what you
are trying to accomplish in your life.
They need to go.
Look, I’m not talking about being selfish and narcissistic. I’m talking about healthy and positive life changes.
So don’t read this the wrong way as an excuse to go make everything about you.
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